January 31, 2021

How do you keep your affection fresh and alive?

Most happily married couples have various habits or rituals that they do to help keep their marriages alive and fresh. These are the things that they do to say “I love you!” or “I still […]
January 31, 2021

Why This is the Year Discipline Wins

Happy New Year to you. How will your 2021 be remembered? First, let’s turn back the clock more than twenty years to gain some perspective. On July 16, 1999, John F Kennedy Jr., son of […]
August 1, 2020

How much JOY do you have?

For much of this year, I’ve been thinking about joy. That probably sounds weird. But, it’s true, nonetheless. For many of us, it has been difficult to be joyful in the midst of a global […]
June 7, 2020

Will You Accept the Vanilla Extract Marriage Challenge?

A couple of weeks ago, I was on a Zoom call with some Christian couples seeking to share some of the deeper aspects of Christian marriage rather than the shallow conversations that are far more […]
April 11, 2020

Christ chose a hill. Which one will you choose?

In the midst of a global pandemic that continues to wreak havoc on the world, the Easter weekend reminds us of a grander story. As my wife Dalia and I prayed last night, the grandeur […]
March 22, 2020

Viruses, Valuations, and Virtue

For most of us in the US and other developed countries, COVID-19 is presenting unprecedented circumstances. For the past two days, I have been on different platforms speaking about the rampant anxiety that is sweeping […]
January 15, 2020

Why You Need Improv in Your Christian marriage

During the holiday break, my daughter Kyrsten and I had our traditional dad-daughter date—which we used to do every month when she was still a teen and living at home. Now, with her living away […]
December 19, 2019

Cheaters: Why Christian Marriages Fail to Thrive

This past month at the monthly couples fellowship that my wife Dalia and I attend, something miraculous happened. I doubt that any of the fifteen couples in attendance recognized the miracle. It wasn’t on the […]
November 27, 2019

A ‘Framed’ Picture is Worth a Thousand Words for Marriage

Today, I was hanging pictures in our newly rehabbed 1850’s house. We have accumulated quite a little art gallery over the years. I didn’t realize it so much until today when I was motivated to […]
November 13, 2019

Ikea and the DIY Marriage

I have a love-hate relationship with Ikea. I love that I’ve been able to go there and purchase nice-looking, trendy furniture that I can put together in hard-to-fit rooms in some of our real estate […]
October 28, 2019

Why Do Most Christian Marriages Not Reflect Christ?

Christian marriage is in trouble. We have lost our way. What’s the problem? Well, frankly, we don’t reflect Christ. And, it shows in the poor quality of our marriages, the shallowness of our faith, and the temporariness […]
August 26, 2019

Self-pity and the path to marital destruction

We (Laura and Matt) are just days shy of our 20th wedding anniversary. It’s a major milestone for our marriage–one of which we are extremely proud. Many might just look at the years that we […]
August 13, 2019

Grasping the Power of Touch in Marriage

God has designed us to be touched. In fact, of the five senses, touching is the one area that is not limited to any one area of our body. Small tactile receptors are located throughout […]
July 27, 2019

Why You Need a Doctorate in ‘Spousology’

Even though school is out for the children, it is never out for us as adults. That is especially true for those of us who are married. The minute that we say ‘I Do’ at […]
July 12, 2019

Marriage Out of the Shadows

Earlier this year on the heels of his hit film “Get Out”, Jordan Peele released his highly next anticipated movie titled “Us”. This critically acclaimed horror film is premised upon the notion that each of […]
June 27, 2019

Is Your Marriage Under God’s Eye?

Every month a group of married Christian couples convene to enjoy one another’s company, to share a meal, to discuss ways to enrich our marriages, and to hold each other accountable for building a great […]
June 10, 2019

The Gifts of Christian Marriage

Last weekend my wife Dalia and I traveled to Denver to met with a few of our dear friends (and spouses) who we originally met during our days at Fuller Theological Seminary over twenty years ago. […]
May 14, 2019

Is Your Marriage Amateur or Professional?

As long as I can remember, I’ve been an avid sports fan. I loved to play sports. My favorite sport was basketball.  From elementary school to the time when I was cut from the JV […]